People always talk about how you will become the top 5 people you hang out with. I don’t know if it is true, and I don’t know if it is right or wrong. I believe there is truth in it because I have seen the good and bad of all sides. The only question is, do you have the right friends?
I’m not a fan of dropping people in your life just to think you will be better off without them. Maybe the slugs in your life are there to make you a better person by making them better people.
I also wonder if work life fits into the five people rule? A lot of us spend a 40 plus hours a week with people who are just like us . We have the same job and need each other day in and day out. Some of them turn into friends.
So your top five… Are they slugs? Is one a slug? Who are you hanging out with?
My top five are not millionaires, but on their way. They all work their asses off. 3 out of five understand finances. We are all in our thirties and have big goals. We probably enjoy life a little to much, and all have our own downfalls.
Here is what you have to look at. Are the people around you improving the way you want, or do you disagree with their actions? How much will you deal with? Are you in control of it?
To change friends is an actual mindset, slash, life change. It takes bold moves and major decisions to drop a friend and hang out with someone new. I don’t think the transition has to be an attribute gage. Go no Go.
The transition takes a decision though. A decision to step out of your boundaries and do what you truly want to do. Be who you want to be and hang out with who you want to hang out with. And… it is hard because you have to step away from the five you already love and trust.
These are life decisions. Friends come and go. Some stick, some are in it for a lifetime, some are family, and some can never be predicted.
Think about your top 5 for a minute or two, decide if they make you happy or not. If not, move.
Then think. What is your top 5 thinking about you?